yes i know.. again. last time, i promise. just let me pour in all my unhappiness and get over it.
i pride myself on having high EQ. i do not usually get into arguments with people. simply put, i always do and say things that would make me seem like the 'good' guy. even if that is not what my natural instinct would tell me to do. and that is most of the time, because i have a
really bad temper. although i personally think i'm a master at hiding it.
i can usually figure out what the other person is thinking/wants without them saying it. although i tend to feign ignorance if my answer is not what they are looking for. and steer the topic away. usually.
i do not snap at people just because they irritate me. usually. because i tend to think over the effect of my words, how the other party would feel/react, etc. usually i conclude that its not worth the effort. 忍一时风平浪静. (but no i usually don't take steps back)
(while i'm at it, frankly i think some people around me need to pick up this habit of thinking thrice before saying something. humans are sensitive creatures, and people can be easily offended, whether or not they show it. sometimes even a casual offhand remark can hurt people. so think before you speak. if someone does something to piss you off, and after thinking a gazillion times you still want to rip the person's head off, try to do it in a quiet and rational manner when you are calmer. slowly. fast = aggressive, and aggressive is no good.)
but today is not a usual day. today i am not the good guy i pretend to be usually. why is that so, i am not so sure. perhaps its the stress i have been giving myself lately for not being able to live up to my own expectations for myself. perhaps its the trouble about the modules for the semester. perhaps its pms or something. i'm just not in the mood to be nice.
so i said harsh words to someone today. i wasn't being very friendly. but well i think it would be unfair to waste people's time waiting for something that is not going to happen. true, i could have done it in a more gracious manner. but i am not in a gracious mood today. my apologies.
and then i snapped at someone else. well. i did use pretty polite words if i would say so myself. but well. it was out of line. although i wouldn't say it was uncalled for. better me then someone else i guess. but the problem is.. well lets just put it this way. i think i'm pretty smart. i might be egoistic, but no one would ever accuse me of being humble. and thats the point. i do not believe in humility. 过度的谦虚是一种虚伪. and yes i think its really fake. people should clearly know what they are capable of and not pretend otherwise. alright i'm not saying everyone should be egoistic like me. for example its fine to not say that i'm smart. but i'm being fake if i say something like.. 'oh god i am so stupid, if i hadn't been possessed during all my examinations i would have flunked out of primary school.' sorry. i have a flair for the dramatic. something like that.
i suddenly remember why i dislike humility so much. when i was younger and a really good kid, whenever my mom spoke of us to other people, she would say things that make us sound like bad, stupid kids. and then when other kids manage to achieve some stuff(even those that we had achieved/done even better) she would be like 'oh this kid is soo smart!'' *rolls eye* so i ever asked her why, and she says, cause we must be 谦虚. wtf. of course i hate humility. fake and disgusting. just like human nature.
and seriously. pick the right people to complain to. for example, a millionaire complaining to a pauper about how he cannot afford to buy an island. a supermodel complaining to her fat makeup artiste about that extra pound of invisible fat on her tummy. does it make any sense? exaggerated cases. you get my point.
so ya. think before you do anything. think HARD. it would make everyone that much happier and the world would be a more harmonious place.
this turned out sort of lecture-y. which i know that makes me sort of pompous, but well. just take it as food for thought. REALLY nutritional food. nutrients i've been lacking lately. but seriously, no more. yup. after this lengthy, angsty and somewhat out of character blogpost i'm going to be a nice, cheerful and polite girl for the rest of the year. =) hopefully. ^^